Ever heard of the "third date rule"? I bet you have. It's that lame dating rule of etiquette where you're supposed to wait until the third date to have sex. It's all entrenched in traditional read: sexist values, casually disguised as "playing hard to get. As someone who spent many years never listening to this rule, chasing the D all over town, and then finally deciding to get a boyfriend, I can tell you this practice is a load of shit. I fuck on the first date because it's the only way to live. I'm not trying to say you HAVE to have sex on the first date if you don't want to, I'm just saying you shouldn't feel guilty should you decide to go for it. It's Waiting around, soaking up BS, outdated dating code is such a waste of time.
You're a human being
Dates are much better than clubs for a hookup because despite the sex-positive cultural swing, girls still go out in groups, and they want to protect each other from getting axe murdered by some random guy in a club. Additionally, the logistical situation is far more complicated in a club. They might get a kiss goodbye, but rarely more. Assume she wants to fuck you. No woman is oblivious to the fact that dating, and sex go hand in hand. You have to assume the burden of the interaction.
Bad sex is not a fun surprise
And in comedy, the third and final item in a list is usually the punchline. The power of the triad is apparent even in the world of romantic and sexual relationships. With American society mainlining Sex and the City to cope with the troubled beginnings of the 21st century, the three-date rule quickly spread throughout culture and became a Thing, ready to be adopted, argued against or parodied. Of course, like all social mores, the three-date rule is subject to flux. In fact, young adults tend to actually overestimate how much casual sex is happening among their peers, according to a Harvard School of Education report from last year. Additionally, the ideals of sex positivity and the growth in acceptance of polyamorous relationships can conceal sexual harassment and continuing power imbalances between men and women. In the face of complex situations, one useful tool is the heuristic , or, in common parlance, a rule of thumb. It actually seems downright traditional in a sense, calling to mind that old saw about men not wanting to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free. There are, of course, other reasons to abstain until a repeat engagement. There are plenty of reasons not to fuck on the first date, whether they be religious, personal or simply practical.
To fuck or not to fuck? I once went on a date with a dude that I really liked. Anyway at the end of the night when we were kissing by the Buck Hunter machine literally the most romantic place you can kiss me, next to at McDonald's and I could feel his massive boner pressing into my hip, I had a decision to make. He seemed totally chill with the decision, and he even communicated with me for a few days afterwards.