If I had a dollar for every time I said, was told or thought "don't worry, it's just a phase" about my children or when reassuring friends about theirs , my wife could quit working and we could both stay home full-time. We'd be rich! The bulk of that money, of course, would come from the voice inside my head repeating "itsjustaphaseitsjustaphaseitsjustaphase" while taking deep breaths and willing my brain not to explode. My kids are six and three and, so far, the times between so-called phases have been shorter than the phases themselves.

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He really is adorable, but he can also act like a real asshole too. I sort of am. My son is also super stubborn, so often he will act like an asshole.
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